Talking to Your Love One
The adjustment of moving out of one’s own home into an assisted living home is not easy. But the decision to have that discussion is also difficult for you and your loved one. It requires love and support and reframing the negatives into positives.
What might be perceived as “losing independence” can also be seen as “gaining independence” by not having to worry about burdensome tasks. The “insecurity” of leaving one’s own home also provides the “security” of having the support of caregivers trained to serve residents. It is common for a loved one to feel like their family is abandoning them. However, they will be gaining a “second family.” You will always be their primary family-close by and visiting often. Families and their loved ones usually enjoy each other even more without the stress of a dependency relationship. This mutual independence can make the time spent together even more meaningful.
We recommend that families have the discussion of transitioning to an assisted living or residential home early and often-and don’t procrastinate. Change is not easy under the best of circumstances, but people can adapt to change if not pressured. What can seem jarring initially tends to become accepted more and more with each discussion, with careful, empathic communication. You and your loved one will make this decision together, and it is in everyone’s best interests to find in an assisted living home where there they’ll get the consistent, devoted care they need and deserve.
We are also here, as advisors, to help families and their loved one through this transition every step of the way. Know that you are not alone. We have had this conversation with many families. We believe in our hearts that a residential care home is a healthy option for a senior to live their later years in a dignified and meaningful way. CareAgape is here to help ensure that this goal becomes a reality.